In this article, we are going to listen to one of our ADHD patients as she explains why people like her can be the best, most caring, rudest, and totally frustrating friend that anyone can have. Diagnosing with ADHD is hard for us as it is hard for the person involved, but it still needs to be done as awareness and knowledge is the best remedy for any confusion with one’s personality.
For Jasmine, being a 17-year-old and diagnosed with ADHD has been an eye-opener for her. It gave her all the reason she needs about herself, and today, she’s going to share us why people like her deserve to be acknowledged, and why they can be the bestest friends that anyone can have.
People are always thinking about attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder in a negative way. They usually don’t give people like me the chance to show them that I can actually be one of the best people they’ll ever meet. Being diagnosed with ADHD was hard for me. But I managed to accept my condition and live life like I was normal like everybody else. I must admit that it wasn’t easy at first, but I finally got the hang of it, and I’m happy that my friends have accepted me and my ADHD.
If you want to make friends with me, the first thing that you need to know is my ADHD. Yes, I have it, and I’m not going to deny it. I feel like it’s important that I disclose it first so to not ruin the things that we’ve got going on. I need your understanding – I’ve got some fair warnings that you should be aware of. But rest assured that despite this, I can still be the bestest best friend that you’ll ever have.
Diagnosing with ADHD: bestest best friend that you’ll ever have
1.) I will be late, but I will be there
As someone with ADHD, I will find it hard to arrive on time on any occasion. Weddings, birthday celebrations, parties, you name it. I’m a constant procrastinator, so I really find it hard to come on time. But you can guarantee that no matter how late I am, I’m still going to be there for you, no matter what.
2.) I’m obsessed with my phone, but that doesn’t mean you’re not as important
If we’re talking, you can constantly see me looking at my phone a couple of times, or maybe always. It’s not that you’re boring, or anything like that. It’s just that my phone somehow zaps all the good neuro-receptors in my ADHD brain. It’s like an ADHDers everyday essential – there’s always something going on, I can just click, click, click all day long, and everything about it is just too relieving for me. Having a conversation without having to check my phone is going to be a nightmare for me. It’s just part of my system and has nothing to do with you at all. So if you find me constantly watching my phone, just give me a good tap, and I’ll be back to reality. I promise.
3.) I always forget my stuff
Trust me – I’m trying really hard to prepare, like packing my bags and getting things organized. But let’s face it, no matter how hard I try, the expectations just don’t meet with reality. I’m always under the impression that my bag is already packed with all the necessary things I need, and then oops! – Forgot my notes for history class. Yeah, it’s hard. I’m going to have to ask you for your notes instead. I would be eternally grateful if it would be okay for you if this happens more often.
5.) I constantly get the wildest thoughts, and I make sure to share it with you.
We’ll be talking about random things, like how was Math class with Mr. Wallace, but then a random thought would just hit me, like “the reason why Mr. Wallace is a grouch is probably because he’s a tranny and is on his menopausal stage.” It might be rude, I know, but It can make a really great conversation, don’t you think? Just for good times.
I may not be the perfect friend, but I make sure I can be the best. Sometimes my ADHD gets in the way of my efforts, but I’ll make sure to make it up to you as much as I can. Whoever you are, I just want to let you know that if we’re going to be friends, then that makes you one of the most important persons in my life, and I’m going to value you as I do with all of my friends. All I need is a little understanding from you.