Model calm: When you see disregulation think “my
child is finding something difficult,
they’re not being difficult”

When a child is disregulated they may well resort to strange and
unacceptable behaviours: shouting, grunting, slamming doors,
no reply, accusing, swearing, crying. These are often the
consequence of feeling out of sorts, off kilter and confused by
the world around them. Teens are super sensitive to peer
pressure; children moving from primary to secondary school
may feel out of place, not understanding certain parts of their
lessons but too embarrassed to ask for help. All this contributes
to feeling uneasy and uncomfortable.

Model clarity: When you see chaotic choices, scattered mind, half started tasks think “my child needs scafolding not scolding”

Model compassion: When you see unpredictable moods, think “my child is overwhelmed by something, how can I validate their feelings?”

Model brain coach: When you see risky behaviours,
random choices, spontaneous
decisions, think “my child can’t see
the bigger picture”

Model TIDY MIND:
When you see your child give up, lose
track, zone out, think “my child needs a
prompt not a prod”